“My kid got into college! Now what?” – a chat with Dr. Mike Condra

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The transition from high-school to college or university can be a very stressful time for students and their parents/guardians. Leaving home, challenging courses, meeting new people – it can all feel daunting and hard. Sometimes these compounding pressures can feel like too much. If that happens, what should a student do? Who do they turn to?  What are the best options?  For parents/guardians, what are the warning signs that your child is in need of some extra support?

Dr. Mike Condra, a veteran mental health expert with 20+ years of experience working at one of Canada’s top universities has advice to help prepare parents and students understand how to navigate and address the mental health needs of students at post-secondary school. Click here for Dr. Condra’s full biography.

Listen to the full podcast here:


Resources from Dr. Mike Condra:

Beginning Post-secondary Education: Tips for Parents/Guardians PDF

Mental Health Student Handbook (English, French and Accessible versions available)

Ask the Expert: Q&A Webinar with Françoise Mathieu

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Last week, Françoise had the honour of being invited to participate in an “Ask the Expert” webinar by CIR – the Centre for Innovation and Resources Inc. The CIR serves those who are working to protect and heal children and families. They work to optimize established services so that children, families, and communities are served in a holistic way based on best practices and current research.

During this webinar, Françoise answers questions from healthcare professionals surrounding the issues of vicarious trauma and compassion fatigue, as well as offers suggestions on how to combat its effects in our work and personal life.

Some of the questions include:

“I like to watch the news to keep informed, however I’m aware it affects me due to vicarious trauma. I’ve tried not watching or reading any news at all, but that doesn’t work. What do you suggest?”

“What are some tools that I can use to help me with the stories that haunt me?”

“What are some strategies for recharging when we realize that compassion fatigue or vicarious trauma is affecting our ability to connect with the work we do, and our personal lives?”

Find the answers to these questions and many more in the full “Ask the Expert” webinar:

 


Resources mentioned in the video:

TEND Blog posts – Becoming Trauma-Informed, Bridges out of Poverty

TEND Articles – Low Impact Debriefing , Beyond Kale and Pedicures, The Business Case

TEND Training – Window of Tolerance Framework by Diana Tikasz

Online Resource – SHIFT wellness

Book Recommendation – Bouncing Back, by Linda Graham.

 

Bridges out of Poverty – resource recommendation

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review by Françoise Mathieu, M.Ed., CCC., RP

Bridges out of Poverty: Strategies for Professionals and Communities – a great resource to develop more compassionate and effective tools to support individuals who live in underprivileged communities.


If you work with folks who live in poverty, these challenges are often multigenerational, complex and very difficult to overcome. Whether your clients are inner-city dwellers with its host of challenges or are individuals trying to make ends meet in remote communities with a lack of basic public amenities and transportation services, this book is a fantastic resource.

Bridges out of Poverty, written by Dr. Ruby Payne, is both a book and an entire community-building program to enhance service providers’ understanding of the complicated layers and resiliency of those who live in chronic poverty.

I was introduced to the book several years ago by a lovely workshop participant from Nebraska who has been involved in bringing the program to his community. I read it from cover to cover as soon as I received it.

Ruby Payne does not only provide a template to assist people living in poverty gain better access to the supports they need, she also invites the reader to reflect on the admirable strengths, resourcefulness and resiliency of folks who have had to struggle to have even the most basic resources: shelter, food, jobs, transportation and much needed health care.

Those of you who have heard me speak in the past know that I am a firm believer that the key to compassion satisfaction and improved quality of care for everyone begins with developing a better understanding of the strengths and challenges of those we serve. This book is a great place to start.


Sources: 

Payne, R. K., DeVol, P. E., Smith, T. D., (2001) Bridges out of Poverty: Strategies for Professionals and Communities. Houston: AHA! Process.

Reducing Unnecessary Trauma Exposure in Service Providers

by Françoise Mathieu, M.Ed., CCC., RP

Many years ago, when my dear friend Robin Cameron and I developed our very first compassion fatigue workshop, we came across the term “limited disclosure” in Laurie Anne Pearlman and Karen Saakvitne’s book Trauma and the Therapist.

The authors, who were well ahead of the curve on all matters related to VT and Compassion fatigue solutions, suggested that we, as professionals, should consider taking a careful look at “how much detail about the violence or abuse [we] want to share [with one another].” (Pearlman, personal communication)

This concept of “limited disclosure” rang so true to us that we immediately integrated it in our training. We called it Low-Impact Debriefing in a cheeky nod to the aerobics craze of the 80s and also because it formed the acronym L.I.D. The idea of low impact debriefing is twofold: to be able to share the information that we need to, while at the same time not having a highly negative impact on the listener. We were not suggesting that we should keep a lid on difficult things but wanted to suggest that we should all perhaps take a careful inventory of how much graphic information we need to be sharing when debriefing difficult stories or consulting on cases with colleagues. Perhaps a better analogy is that of a pressure cooker that lets the steam out little by little rather than in one giant burst with potentially negative consequences.

Over the past decade, my team has received many invitations to present at trauma trainings: child abuse symposia, conferences for parents of murdered children, workshops for sex crimes investigators, courses on the Dark Net and cybercrime, and many similar other conferences. We are often struck by the extremely graphic details that are almost invariably shared during these events: gruesome photos shown on a giant screen during a lunch time keynote, detailed descriptions of a murder or assault on a child, minute details about the smells, sounds and sights of a crime scene and even, at times, graphic audio and video footage. Some of these scenes can be very difficult to forget.

When is Trauma Exposure Gratuitous and When it is Necessary?

I think that we can all agree that many media outlets share an excessive amount of potentially disturbing images in their coverage (and in fictional shows, but that’s for another post). I remember listening to CBC news radio on my headset a few years ago while I was out for a run, and suddenly, without warning, the host played an actual audio of a child being victimized. I remember tearing the earpieces away from me and thinking “WTF just happened? Why was this necessary during a midday radio show? And I that instance, I don’t think that the now overused customary warning “content may be disturbing to some” was enough to justify airing that footage.

I am also well aware that at times, graphic details are essential to a trauma training – if you are a forensic examiner or an investigator of any sort, you must be able to recognise and differentiate between an accidental injury and one that has been deliberately caused by another person, or you may need to learn how to assess a crime scene and the related details that are present. You may need to learn how to interview a criminal in order to develop better investigative or clinical skills. Sometimes, we need videos, photos and details in order to do our job properly.

But here is my question to you: how much detail is too much? Even at a trauma conference, are all details required at all times? Is it enough to give people a warning at the start of our talks “this may disturb you” or do we all have a responsibility to reassess what we are sharing and how much detail is enough?

We were recently asked to create a brand-new course called “The Things We Can’t Unsee: Reducing the Impact of Secondary Trauma Exposure” which we have had the privilege of offering to legal professionals, child abuse investigators and victim service providers across North America this year. The response has been extremely positive and has led to some powerful discussions and reflection among participants. A good place start addressing this issue is to perform a personal “trauma audit” for ourselves and see how much extraneous trauma stories we are sharing with one another. To go further, please read The four steps to Low Impact Debriefing as discussed in my book (Click here).

“I’m not bothered by these stories”

Now, I have been in the field long enough to know that some of you will say “I have been exposed to thousands of stories, they don’t bother me anymore” and perhaps this is true. We all have a different level of sensitivity to difficult images and traumatic details based on a whole host of personal factors. But it would be interesting to be able to measure our stress hormones and see whether that is actually true, or to be able to perform a brain scan and see how our limbic system responds to repeated exposure. As psychiatrist Dr. John Bradford so eloquently explained in his testimonials a few years ago, after 30 years of exposure to gruesome images, he also thought that he was immune, until, one day, he was not: http://www.ottawacitizen.com/health/Tough+forensic+John+Bradford+opens+about+PTSD/9152171/story.html

To Learn More:

 

Sources:

Mathieu, F. (2012) The Compassion Fatigue Workbook: Creative Tools for Transforming Compassion Fatigue and Vicarious Trauma. New York: Routledge.

Pearlman, L. A., & Saakvitne, K.W. (1995). Trauma and the therapist: Countertransference and vicarious traumatization in psychotherapy with incest survivors. New York: W.W. Norton. pp. 383-384.

 

Becoming Trauma-Informed – A Key to Sustaining Compassion and Offering High Quality Care

by Françoise Mathieu, M.Ed., CCC. RP.

Every single helping professional I have ever met has told me that, at some point in their career, they had the following reflections:

1) Why wasn’t I properly trained to work with difficult clients/patients?

2) If I knew then what I know now, maybe I would have been more patient and compassionate with this particular client/patient

 and they have also asked themselves a variation of this question:

How do I stay compassionate with the “non-compliant”, difficult, “manipulative” clients?

Those of you who know me will know why I put those two terms in brackets – I utterly dislike those two words “non-compliant” and “manipulative” and I have tried to never use them in my own practice when referring to clients I have worked with. Would you not agree that they are words laden with our own judgment and feelings of frustration –  us, the exasperated service providers who feel that the folks we serve are not behaving according to the plan that would make our work so much easier? Or, at times, that those words are a reflection of our sadness for what we see as self-destructive sabotage on our clients’ part, and that this understandably upsets us?

A diabetes nurse recently said to me: “it’s so frustrating, our patients need to do some basic things – check their sugars, eat right, move their bodies, take their insulin, and so many of them don’t – with dire consequences. I can’t seem to get through to them, and then, they get worse. I have run out of ideas and energy to help them!”

I have heard the same from so many different helping professionals: domestic violence workers who see a person return to a terrible situation, addiction counselors, judges, police officers who work with victims of sex trafficking, paramedics who roll their eyes at “frequent flyers” … the list gets longer each time I meet a new group of helpers.

If you’re like me, and you’ve been in the helping field for 20 years or more, the odds are that you didn’t learn a lot or anything about the long term consequences of childhood trauma and neglect back when you were studying to become a professional. Although I went to two excellent graduate schools, my training programs barely touched on trauma at all, except for a brief class on PTSD, but that was mostly in relation to soldiers, and not much else was said about it.

But that has changed now. We have solid research and tools to allow each one of us to become more trauma-informed and this knowledge can allow us to work with challenging clients (and colleagues) with a better understanding of the reasons for some of their actions and choices. This, in turn, can allow us to remain compassionate and to be more helpful to them during their challenging and brave journeys through life.

Here are some resources to become more Trauma-Informed and continue the journey towards compassion for others and for ourselves.

TED TALK: Watch Dr. Nadine Burke-Harris’ amazing presentation on the Adverse Childhood Experience Study for a 16-minute overview. A must-watch!

https://www.ted.com/talks/nadine_burke_harris_how_childhood_trauma_affects_health_across_a_lifetime/up-next

BOOKS:

Childhood Disrupted: How your Biography becomes your Biology and how you can Heal” by Donna Jackson Nakazawa

“In the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction” by Gabor Maté

Webinar to stay compassionate: Compassion Fatigue 101

Websites:

Trauma Informed Care Project http://www.traumainformedcareproject.org

ACES too High website: https://acestoohigh.com

Balancing our Work and Life while Staying Well – Five Essential Tools

By Françoise Mathieu

This post was initially published on the Oregon OEA Choice Trust website: http://oeachoice.com/5-essential-tools-for-balancing-your-work-and-life-while-staying-well/

I grew up in a family of educators. My parents moved from Montreal to the high arctic in the early 1960s and worked in a variety of schools in very remote Inuit communities for the following decades. Over the years, my father was a teacher and then became school principal, then superintendent and eventually director general of an entire region. He travelled extensively for work, visiting numerous villages for a third of each year, dealing with labour disputes, financial cutbacks and the complex societal challenges facing First Nations communities. My mother co-developed one of the very first teacher training program for Inuit women in Canada.

Needless to say, my parents were very dedicated and hard-working. Education reform and the challenges of the work was daily conversation in our household. Working as educators in small communities presented many challenges and rewards: our house was often the informal hotel, food bank and shelter, and villagers would frequently knock on our door for advice or support.

Are you living in the community that you serve?

If you live and work in the same community, you may have experienced something similar: you go to the grocery store on a Saturday in your sweatpants, and a parent accosts you for advice on their child’s problematic learning difficulties. You go to a party and are immediately grilled on your thoughts about educational policies or the best ways to beat the SATS.

How do you find balance between work and your private life?

I would say, in hindsight, that my parents were frequently completely exhausted at night, and did not know a thing about work-life balance. Being from the War Generation, born in the 1940s, their cohort had not learned about the importance of balance and self-care. For them, you worked until you fell down, and then you got up again and worked some more. They had very little time for themselves. This was the norm among the educators that I knew.

Burnout Research

So how can we find balance working in the education field? How do we learn to set limits so that we can bring our best selves to work and yet not burn out? How do we juggle the competing demands of our home lives and careers?

Notions of self-care are fairly new to the education field. In fact, it wasn’t until the late 1980s that researchers started investigating the concept of work-related burnout among mental health professionals and nurses.  Compassion fatigue, the emotional and physical exhaustion that can lead to a shift in our ability to experience empathy for others is a concept that emerged in the 1990s and lead to the growth of an entirely new field exploring provider wellness.

Here’s what we now know: we cannot expect to work in highly demanding and frequently under-resourced environments without taking some active steps to maintain our emotional and physical health. Some workplaces have implemented some very successful workplace wellness initiatives and we have featured them in our article “Beyond Kale and pedicures” (http://www.tendacademy.ca/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/BEYOND-KALE-AND-PEDICURES-Article.pdf)

The good news is that we now have over 25 years of research that map out what works and steps that we can each take to stay well. I have written extensively on this topic in my book The Compassion Fatigue Workbook and related articles.

Here are my top five favourites:

What works? 5 Key steps

Step one: Take stock

Cheryl Richardson wrote an outstanding book called Take Time for your Life in 1990 which provides a great self-assessment checklist called “What’s draining you?”. Richardson invites readers to identify the main drains on their energy: relationships, environment, body mind and spirit, work and money. Completing this checklist allows you to decide where to begin. Which of these areas is causing you the most stress at the moment? Which area shows the most possibility of improvement?

Step two: Identify your warning signs

How do you know you’re headed for trouble? What are your most recurrent physical warning signs? What about emotional reactions? Have you noticed some predictable behavioural patterns that show up when you’re overloaded? Learning to recognise your top three warning signs can help you catch things early before you become too depleted.

Step three: Pick your battles at work

The field of education is complex, and frequently under-resourced. Some of us deal with these realities more successfully than others. If you work with a colleague or a team that is frequently negative or engage in constant office gossip or naysaying, consider making more strategic alliances in the workplace. Venting once in a while is fine, daily gripe sessions bring nothing constructive to the workplace.

Step four: develop a community of support

Research has shown that social support is one of the best strategies to address compassion fatigue and burnout. Who are your accountability partners? Who do you spend time with at work and at home? Can they be there to help you stay on target with your self-care goals?

Step five: Reassess where you are at regularly

I recently wrote a new year’s resolution blog post on my website: www.tendacademy.ca where I discuss my lack of enthusiasm for new year’s resolutions. Rather than making big commitments once a year, I prefer to have weekly tweaks and adjustments. On Sundays, each week, I take gentle stock: how am I doing? What needs more attention? What needs tweaking?

Conclusion

My parents excelled in their careers, but it took a significant toll on their health and their personal lives. I look back on their work with admiration but also see a cautionary tale of working without balance. We know better now. Where will you start?

The Junk in the Driveway – A reflection on Dual Relationships

I’ve been thinking a lot about conflicts of interests, boundaries and dual relationships lately.

This wasn’t actually prompted by the appalling abuses of power we have seen in news headlines in the past few months (and, what a long list we could make…) of people in positions of trust or influence who violated some fundamental rules about power dynamics and respect.

And it wasn’t really triggered by questions I regularly get from new professionals in health care or the legal system, as they try to sort out the grey zones in their Codes of Conduct between what is right and what is wrong when we engage with other human beings: maybe get closer to our clients emotionally, or know of something that could really help them out but is a breech of the rules we are governed by. Or we find something out in our work that has an impact on another aspect of our lives but we are bound by confidentiality.

No, this all started with a pile of junk blocking a driveway.

Dual relationships – the fairly benign ways in which we are all put in potentially tricky situations when we wear several hats personally and professionally.

This happens frequently when we live in small communities of course – when your in-law is also your dentist, or your hairdresser, or your best friend is also the town’s police officer or the women’s shelter worker or land developer or when you hire your sister’s kid to mow your lawn.

But let me go back to the pile of junk.

Imagine that I have hired your daughter Holly to help me with yard work. You and I are close friends, and we also work together. But I’m also your supervisor at the office.

We have an agreement, I pay your kid x amount for the work that she does and Holly knows when she is supposed to come. Great. I am getting my junk cleared and your child gets some pocket money and some work experience.

But what if I’m not happy with Holly’s work? It may be that I’m really comfortable being a direct communicator and we just sort it out between ourselves, Holly and I. All good.

It may also be that Holly’s shy and I am worried about hurting her feelings so I don’t say anything because she’s your kid and you’re my friend and I’m also your boss.

Now imagine that one day, you are driving by my house, and you notice that the junk hasn’t been removed when it clearly should have. What happens next? Do you text your child and say “get your butt over there”? Do you get out of your car and do the junk removal yourself ? (don’t laugh, I have done this in the past, I confess! Shame shame!).

What happens next? Let’s say I, the boss, get to work, and I am frustrated with Holly’s work. In fact, I wasn’t able to get my car out of the driveway because she didn’t do her job and I’m late for a meeting with you, her parent.

Ok let’s try another scenario: You are selling your house, it’s on the market. A dear friend wants to buy the house and says “let’s do it privately, we’ll save a ton on real estate fees.” Is that ok? Is it a dual relationship?  What if you agree and there turns out to be a huge problem with your sewer system, that you didn’t know about or failed to disclose? What happens to the friendship? Does your best mate have to sue you? How do we handle this?

A few years ago, I was contacted by a woman who urgently wanted me to see her adult daughter for counselling. Although this mother did not know me, I knew exactly who she was – and the odds of us ending up at a private function or dinner party were extremely high. I told her that I wasn’t comfortable seeing her child but that I would recommend other excellent therapists. The mother insisted: “why can’t you see her? I don’t know you, and I would not be in any way uncomfortable seeing you at a dinner party.” And I realized that in this case, the discomfort was that this would potentially encroach on my privacy – what if the patient and I don’t get along? What if I, at some point, have to report her to child protective services of have her hospitalized? So I politely turned the mother down and, in the end, it was the right call, as things unraveled and I would have been in the middle of a mess that overlapped between my personal and professional life. Not good for them, not good for me.

None of these examples are situations where people abused their power, or violated any ethical or moral codes. But they are examples of dual relationships, and I think that we all encounter these at various times in our lives, especially if we live in small communities, no matter what profession we’re in.

Registered health professionals receive training on ethics and codes of conduct and we all know the sacrosanct rules about confidentiality, duty to report and that we’re not supposed to date our patients (Ugh. I hope everyone knows that one). But I think that all of us encounter more subtle challenges in our daily lives that, unaddressed, can lead to conflict, awkward misunderstandings and a myriad of other problems.

I am not suggesting that you shouldn’t hire Holly to do your yard work. But I am thinking that clear agreements ahead of time can prevent upset and strife.

The real estate deal is partly a true story, although we didn’t have any hidden sewer problems. How we handled it was through very clear communication about all the ways in which this could be tricky, and I spent a great deal of time writing a full disclosure document about all things down the road and we shared information with the vendor about things that were potentially wrong with our house. This process was about transparency and communication and it was essential, in my mind, to prevent future conflict or damage to our friendship.

Dual relationships are sometimes inevitable, but I always take a pause when I see one in the offing and I try to reflect on the cost of ignoring the potential pitfalls for the sake of saying yes or being a pleaser.

How you navigate them in your life?

Helpful Online Tools to Manage Stress and Compassion Fatigue

Following my last two posts on favourite books (link here) and podcasts (link here), here are a few helpful online apps to manage stress, compassion fatigue, trauma exposure and help us reset after challenging days.

There is now strong evidence suggesting that body-centered approaches are among some of the most effective ways to manage trauma exposure and stress. For some of us, that includes a regular yoga or meditation practice, vigorous physical exercise or other therapeutic techniques such as EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) or EFT (emotional freedom technique), to name a few.

But if your schedule or personal preferences do not lean towards incorporating some of these practices into your every-day life, what can you do? Even if you already practice yoga or mindfulness, here are some easy to use, portable techniques that you can include in your self-care arsenal.

Here are some of our favourite apps:

The 7-minute workout:  https://7minuteworkout.jnj.com/

Stress Reduction Activities: https://www.calm.com/  

Headspace Mindfulness app: https://www.headspace.com 

Ichill – Stress Reduction App by the Trauma Resource Institute:  http://www.ichillapp.com

Digital use manager: http://www.qualitytimeapp.com

Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping to reduce stress and anxiety)

http://eft.lifecoaching4u.net/products-2/go-eft-tapping-2/

 

Interested in more training? 

TEND Associate Diana Tikasz, MSW. has created a new one day workshop called WTF: The Window of Tolerance Framework and other Strategies to Keep You Grounded in High Stress Situations. This training has received rave reviews from participants. WTF will also soon be available as a web-based course on our site!

Brief description of the WTF course: The pace, content and competing demands of the modern workplace has left many of us operating in constant stress and overdrive. Frequently this elevated stress state is challenged further with added pressures and trauma exposure. Eventually we can find ourselves shutting down and numbing out because our bodies are not built to function in this high-energy state for extended periods of time. As a result, we see many negative physical, emotional, behavioural and relational consequences in the workplace.

WTF stands for “Window of Tolerance Framework”. This one-day training provides skills to move helping professionals out of states of reactivity or avoidance and into the place of possibility where we are centered amongst the chaos and can choose how we wish to respond. It is ideally suited for front-line workers and others working with forensic evidence, investigations, court, with witnesses and victims and those working with individuals who have experienced difficult and traumatic experiences.

Please contact us for more information about Diana’s live training.

Favourite podcasts to Unwind and Reset

I travel a lot for work and find that flights or train rides are an ideal time to catch up on readings, emails and to-do lists. But sometimes I need to completely switch off from trauma work and take a real break, and for that, podcasts are fantastic. I tend to find that watching movies or TV shows doesn’t leave me particularly refreshed or restored, but podcasts always seem to do the trick. They are also great for long car rides or when I am cooking a big batch of food for the week.

In a recent post (link here) I provided a list of my favourite books to manage stress, secondary trauma and burnout. Today, I wanted to offer some podcast recommendations here. Feel free to add your top choices in the comments section below!

If you are not familiar with what podcasts are, they are basically radio shows/special interest topics that you can download to your devices and listen to them even while offline. Many of them are free and you can subscribe to them through your app store, Itunes, Spotify or companies like Audible. I mostly use the app store on my phone for these and almost all of the ones that I listen to are free. I signed up and now I get them delivered into my podcast app automatically.

Now, podcast choices are very personal and not everyone has the same tastes, so it is important to try several of them out. Do you like history? Food? Design? Sports? Crime stories? (now, not too many crime stories, friends! Remember to protect yourself from unneeded trauma exposure during your leisure times).

My Top 5 faves:

  • Revisionist History by Malcolm Gladwell (2 seasons). Fascinating exploration of unexplored aspects of a past event that everyone remembers. I listened to the entire first series during a long drive, and had to finish it in my friend’s driveway before going in. I couldn’t stop.
  • 99% Invisible: Short shows on the intersection between social science and urban design. This one is hard to describe, just check it out. I particularly liked the one on “Unpleasant design” and how spaces are sometimes deliberately built to discourage loitering, sleeping or skateboarding. I notice that now every time that I try to get comfortable in an airport chair that has deliberately been designed to prevent us from lying down. Thanks a lot.

 

  • This American Life TAL is a very famous podcast, and the topics are all human interest and vary each week. When I don’t like it, I just skip to the next one. There was a riveting account of the experience of being a refugee trying to gain entry into the US. Some stories are more disturbing than others so choose wisely.

 

  • Hardcore History by Dan Carlin My husband and son are huge fans of these epic multi-hour explorations of historical events. I loved “The Wrath of the Khans” and the show on the protestant reform. In fact, I weeded my entire garden listening to that last one. Strange, but true.

 

  • Death, Sex and Money Yep, doesn’t get much better than those three topics.

 

Good Reads for Helpers

If you’ve met me before, you will know that I am a huge believer in bibliotherapy, the transformative power of books – at least for those who enjoy reading. (I will have other suggestions in a future post for the rest of you.)

I was once told, at the end of a two-day compassion fatigue training that I had “recommended too many books” – Impossible, I say!

When I had a private practice, I had a shelf full of my top ten reads which I would lend to clients until I realised that the return rate was, ahem, random at best. So, instead, I started compiling lists of recommended readings which I continue to share in my workshops and trainings.

On these cold winter days, snuggling up with a good read and learning new strategies to combat compassion fatigue and general stress sounds like a healthy way to beat the winter blues.

My favourite books to help professionals stay healthy and compassionate:

 

Compassion Fatigue/Vicarious Trauma

Trauma Stewardship by Laura Van Dernoot Lipsky (2009) 

The Compassion Fatigue Workbook by Françoise Mathieu (2012) (available here)

 

Organizational Health

Is work Killing You? A Doctor’s Prescription for Treating Workplace Stress (2013) by David Posen 

Building Resilient Teams by Patricia Fisher (2016) (available here)

 

Trauma and the Body 

Bouncing back: rewiring your brain for maximum happiness by Linda Graham (2013)

 Childhood Disrupted: How your Biography Becomes your Biology by Donna Jackson Nakazawa, (2015).

 The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, (2014).

The Body Bears the Burden: Trauma, Dissociation and Disease by Robert Scaer, (2014).

 

Stress/Immune System

When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté

Resilience, Balance & Meaning Workbook by Patricia Fisher (available at here)

 

Work/Life Balance

Take Time for Your Life: a 7 Step Program for Creating the Life you Want by Cheryl Richardson (1999)

 Self Care/Stress Reduction

 Little book of stress relief by David Posen

 Simplify Your Life: 100 Ways to Slow Down and Enjoy the Things That Really Matter by Elaine St James